“Happy” can be a very difficult emotion to maintain. People most often believe that the emotion is contingent upon external catalysts and circumstances. However, happiness begins within. It is indeed a difficult task to experience joy if your sense of self is consistently faltered. While building self-esteem is a long withstanding process of self-discovery, there are still a few things that can be done to give your soul a quick sprucing. These tips for empowerment are guaranteed to add a little sunshine to a cloudy day.
1. Serenade Yourself: Keri Hilson said “Pretty Girls Rock”. Beyonce said you’re “Flawless”. So why shouldn’t you hear those lyrics in repetition throughout your day. Music helps us to express the things we may not be able to articulate without melody. Believe the words you’re lip synching as you fantasize about your own mock music video. An empowerment playlist is just what you may need to start your day.
2. Write Yourself a Love Letter: Cliché, I know but it can be ridiculously therapeutic. Talk about some of the mistakes you’ve made but be sure to include words of forgiveness.You’re going to make more mistakes than you can jot down in a day. Acknowledge them but give yourself a mental hug and let it go.
3. Compliment Your Reflection: Don’t be afraid to look yourself in the mirror, smile, and say “I’m Awesome”! Look closely at some of the things that make you beautiful. Surprise…they’re not all physical. Need a little help? Try remembering all of the compliments you’ve received about your great talents.
4. Treat Yourself: Self defecation is easy. Doing something that make you feel fantastic can be quite the task sometimes. Make yourself more of a priority. Indulge in activities that are bound to make your soul smile. You like watching television? Devote a day to Netflix and veg out in the most ridiculous way possible. You like to read? Turn everything off, including that pesky cell phone and become enraptured in your favorite author’s world. If your dream day consists of oreo cookies and soap net…DO IT! Guilty pleasures can be healthy in moderation.
5. Remove the Trash: Get rid of the toxic people in your life. You know who I’m talking about…the people with nothing nice to say, engrossed in their own self esteem deficiencies. Let’s call them what they are…emotional vampires. If allowed, they will drain the life right out of you. At the very least, they’re bound to suckle your basic emotional necessities. Put them on your block list until you have the strength and stamina to show them how you expect to be treated.
A Little Audacity Contributor: Kariba Willliams
As you start this wonderful morning, start it with the power- filled inspirational words of Ms. Jill Scott.
Be blessed, shine bright and remember you are not just an ass.
Clearly I am not a fat ass
I am active brain
And lip smacking peach deep
Sometimes too aggressive in it’s honesty
And heart sweet
That loves wholly and completely
Whom it may choose
Whom ever it may choose
I am not gonna lie and pacify
I am arms to hold
I am lips to speak
I am a motherfucking “G”
Strong legs that stroll off the 33 bus
Or out of a money green Phantom comfortably
Knees that bend to pray
Clean from Ajax washings
Hair that is thick and soft
Thighs that betwixt
An amazing all expense grand prize
I am eyes that sing
Smile that brightens
Touch that rings
And supplies euphoric release
I am a Grand Dame Queen Beast
I am warm
I am peace
From the roads of Botswana from 23rd Street
From the inside third eye
Ever watching this wicked wicked system of things
I do see
I am friend to pen
And a lover of strong women
A diamond to men
I am curious and interested like children
I welcome the wise to teach
Appreciator of my culture
Thick not just from bone dense and eat
I have a rhythm in my ways
And a practice in my seek
And yes, I do crave the rhythm of my space
With a man that rejoices in God’s Grace
With faith I do hear to listen
Two hands that fist
When forced pushes to shove
And your ego won’t submit
I am gifted
I am all of this
And indeed the shit
Clearly I am not just an ass
What does it really mean to have a little audacity? Well, lets see what Webster has to say:
Audacity: boldness or daring, especially with confident or arrogant disregard for personal safety, conventional thought, or other restrictions.
Often, when audacity is mentioned in general conversation, it is presented in a negative light. For example, one might say: “Can you believe that she had the audacity to say I’ve gained weight” or “He had the audacity to think I would give him the time of day”. If you let it, the little audacities of another has the power to make you feel slighted or disrespected –even if their statements are true or not intended to personally offend. In this case, you might know that you have put on a few pounds but the fact that someone was bold enough to say it to you directly causes the stir of emotion, therefore bringing forth insecurities.
But what if we flipped audacity and called it motivation. Could it possibly do magical things in our life? I say YES! When harnessed, audacity is the courage to change, to create, to expand. It gives you the power and “the nerve” to uplift yourself and others around you. It’s the life energy and boldness one needs to excel and conquer.
This blog was created as a little audacity of my own. It’s my declaration to the world: “I AM HERE”. I’ll talk lifestyle, relationships, and share personal experiences and lessons I’ve collected over the years. One post at a time, it is my wish that you will be encouraged to enjoy this journey called life, to the fullest, for no other reason than- you can. I truly believe that if faith, the size of a mustard seed is all that is needed to believe that all your dreams are possible- then a little audacity is fuel needed to transform those dreams into reality.
Welcome to alittleaudacity.com.