Let this serve as an official notice to the world that BLACK MEN ARE NOT DONE WITH BLACK WOMEN. I don’t know how this horrible rumor began but it has spread like stage four cancer in our community and I for one am ready to put a stop to this madness.
There have been countless articles written and YouTube videos created listing the many reasons that black women are being shunned by the dating world, more specifically black men.
Our “nasty attitudes” coupled with our “bitterness” and the many factors of the imaginary “angry black women syndrome” tops the list as to why men are supposedly jumping ship and swimming into the arms of non-black women.
Word on the dating scene is that black women have been black-listed [gasp @ the audacity].
Ladies and gentlemen – Come on, are we really going there?
The notion is a bit of a stretch, however…
I will admit that there has been a bit of disconnect, a loss of communication if you will between black men and women in the dating/relationship world.
LETS FACE IT:
Generation after generation, black women have been forced (by a number of historical and domestic factors I won’t list here because that would be an entire blog post in itself) to lead households on their own, raise children on their own and educate and advance themselves without the help of a partner. Fortunately, they’ve excelled and continue to do so (click here for stats) but that progression has clearly created a gap in professional advancement as well as a resentment towards one another.
I often hear sisters saying: “Girlllll, I don’t need a man” “He can’t do anything for me.”
And brothers saying: “She doesn’t have respect for me as a man” and so “I’m doing me.”
Like childhood friends who have grown up and grown apart, we now look at each other with a foreign eye, each wondering if we ever knew one another in an intimate way.
I say enough is enough. It’s time to put a stop to this negative publicity and bring the focus back to LOVE. Fortunately, with a willingness to do the work and a huge word called COMMUNICATION- we can get back on track.
ARE YOU READY TO GET BACK TO LOVE? IF SO, CHIME IN.
I would love to hear from you. What are your thoughts?
Has professional advancement created a wedge in your relationship? If so, how?
Are you a black man or woman who is done with dating people within your race? Why?…
Is this lashing out against the black woman is a cry for attention from the black man?
If you’re ready to get back to love? How will you start a chain reaction?
Be as specific as possible in your comment, as incredible souls ready to hear voices of reason come here to connect and share their stories.
Remember, ‘A Little Audacity’ goes a long way so speak your truth – it’s the only way to create the change in your life you want to see.
Lisa V. King